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People in the infertility community are divided on the issue. There are those who say we should just shut up and be happy for any woman who has 47 and want some, no matter how she reaches that point. Then there are those who want access to the nitty-gritty details — specifically, the genetic details of this achievement.
Not because we're gossips, but because we just want to know if it's possible. Can someone in their late 40s really have a baby with their own eggs? We just want hope. On the one hand, it's none of my business how celebrities live their lives — especially when it comes to their children, who didn't ask to be born into the limelight.
Why should I be privy to 's genetics, more specifically if their parents used third-party reproduction, such as someone else's eggs, sperm, embryos or, in the case of a surrogatea uterus? On the other hand, shouldn't public figures be honest about their baby-making so as not to give women everywhere false hope? When I started fertility treatment at 41, I was woefully ignorant about my reproductive capabilities I mostly knew how not to get pregnant.
I'd had two failed pregnancies already, but I figured with a little medical 47 and want some, I could carry a baby to term. I thought I had plenty of time. Look at celebrities like Halle Berry who had her second child at 46Laura Linney she gave birth at 49and Janet Jackson the singer had her first child at I was practically a baby myself! I did not know that a woman's fertility dips precipitously at 41 and almost entirely by Especially for a first-time mother, and one seeking fertility treatment. I had never heard of getting donor eggs from a younger woman to createor that many older women over 44 used them to have children.
She explained donor eggs could help older women, younger women with "bad" eggs, women who had many failed rounds of IVF, and sometimes women with repeat miscarriages, have a baby. After all, it's primarily the age of the eggs, not that of the woman and her uterus, which determines a successful pregnancy. This is where egg freezing comes in. It allows an "older" woman 47 and want some work with her own, younger eggs during IVF.
But there are downsides to using donor eggs, including the fact that the baby does not carry your genes. After all, I kept getting pregnant. By the time I was 43, with three miscarriages under my belt, doctors told me to genetically test my embryos to find one that was chromosomally normal so I could have a baby.
I had already given up on unassisted conception, and had come to terms with the idea that my baby was going to be created in a lab.
And yet I so wanted this baby to carry my genes. That wasn't going to happen. As a writer chronicling my journey for The New York Times in a Fertility Diary column, I'd vowed from the beginning that however I got pregnant, with whomever's sperm, eggs, embryos, or womb, I would disclose it.
I would not be one of those beaming pregnant celebrities keeping mum and unintentionally misleading the public about how they got pregnant. I was a journalist. I would be honest. I would not give struggling women everywhere false hope about the chances of having a baby with your own eggs when you're older and unable.
I was going to lay it all out there. But after I got pregnant and stayed pregnant, no small feat for a woman who had four miscarriages, I had second thoughts. When I was in my second trimester, and it really seemed as if it might stick this time, I wanted to tell my readers and friends I was pregnant.
But as I sat down to write, I balked. I did not want to write that I had used donor eggs. See, when it had been just an idea in my mind, it seemed like the responsible thing to do, to be public about it. But now there was an actual fetus inside me, a soon-to-be baby.
Well, that was a different story. It was her 47 and want some. Did I really want the whole world knowing her business before she did? Shouldn't I be allowed to have privacy? Not secrecy, we always planned on telling her! Besides, I was afraid of the trolls. Many hadn't been so kind to me simply for trying to be a mother at an 47 and want some age.
Women are regularly castigated for their choices. If we have babies too young, without proper support, we're irresponsible. If we wait to get our career and partnership in place, we're "selfish career women.
When she and her husband, John Legend, opted to transfer a girl embryo first, they were accused by the Twitter mob of "gender selection. If near-perfect Teigen got pilloried for standard IVF, what would happen to others acknowledging the use of third-party reproduction?
We would be opening ourselves and our lives up to the ignorant masses. I did it in a way that only those going through fertility treatment would realize. Maybe I chickened out. But it's not really my story, anymore. It's my daughter's. Still, these days I mention it when relevant, like if I'm counseling someone about fertility. I don't want them to have unrealistic expectations, thinking that if I got pregnant at 44 so can they.
It's possible, but not likely. Otherwise, I barely mention donor eggs. This fact is simply not relevant: I carried my daughter since she was a 5-day-old embryo, gestated her pregnancy for 41 weeks stubborn little sucker! So I understand celebrities' reluctance to disclose how they had their children, and I'm happy for 47 and want some. I also wish we could all be a little more honest about everything — IVF, donor eggs, donor sperm, donor embryos, surrogacy — and that we lived in a world where none of it mattered. World globe An icon of the world globe, indicating different international options.
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Cameron Diaz had a baby at 47, and she doesn't owe us an explanation of how she did it